sibling rivalry

Holla Holla dullars, hope I catch you roggering that. Have you ever wondered why you and your sibling don’t get along? Do you find time to go out with your brothers and or sisters? Or its always you and your friends?. Even celebs like the Jonas brothers, Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber do have some sibling issues but they love one another. The bible has the stories of Joseph and his brothers who sold him because he was father’s favourite and the enmity between Cain and Abel. Well let’s not be jealous to our brother or sister for their achievements. After all blood is thicker than the water. But a little rivalry is normal. Do you think your parents favour your siblings above you? Here are the thoughts of teens just like you.


I think my parents adore my siblings more than me because they give them gifts that I never got when I was their age regardless of their performance at school which is not that impressive as compared to mine during their age. I feel this is not fair because it has affected our relationship both at home and at school. But in a way I understand that it is for the purpose of motivating me to do good. One way or the other we are one family and we love each other.
Chamaine Mutenda 18 Glenview1 High School

On several occasions my little brother undermines my authority as the big brother and it gets on my nerves. Maybe this is fueled by the fact that he is brighter in school than me. I am not happy that when it comes to family issues he is consulted first and most of his suggestions are the ones that are adopted. This hasn’t gone down well with me. Our aunt has tried to improve the relationship but it seems not to work.
Tinodiwa from Fletcher High School
I feel that I am always sidelined at home, a reason that has led to the existence of enmity between me and my young sister. Whenever we quarrel mom usually take my sister’s side even when she is wrong. I know that she is young but if she is wrong they should help me in correcting her as well.
Muza 15 Warren Park
Sibling rivalry doesn’t exist in our family but I am sure that it is parents who play a part in ensuring that this ceases to exist amongst their children. They should take notice of and give some praise to all children. If problems are dealt with fairly it will instill a spirit of cooperation and help with future 'battles'.
Norman Shoko 18 Dzivarasekwa
I used to be challenged by my young brother and I hated him for that. Our parents never took any action which made me think that they loved him more than me. However our parents made it clear that there would not tolerate any physical violence. This rule has helped me understand that you do not need fist to stamp your authority and to realize that someone who argues with you does not necessarily hate you. They just T. Rufaro 17 Highlands
My parents love my little brother more than me and I am even afraid this will tear apart the relationship I have been trying to build. I used to be very stubborn until we welcomed a little brother I tried to change for the better because I could see their attention was now on the little one. My brother is seven years old now and I am still being treated like a stranger. I have tried to be nice both to my parents and young brother but it is not working. I know I have been rude but they should at least give me a chance.
Romeo from Dzivarasekwa aged 18
We get the same treatment from our parents the only problem is that my siblings have a problem with authority and I have been trying to contain the situation so as to avoid unnecessary battles which might draw our parents’ attention. However I believe as time goes on they will get to know I am the big bro.
Tinashe Dakwa 19 Highfields
We are only two in our family me and my brother and my parents are of the belief that boys should get all the attention because they carry the family name. They adore my young brother very much. Luckily I am not jealousy of my brother but I feel if this persists it will ruin our relationship.
Anesu R.R 16 Msasa
Well, we will all argue now and then when we see things differently. If you really feel that your parents are persistently unfair, try and talk to them about it. Do not blame them but just explain how you feel when they choose your sibling over you all the time. But remember that you are lucky to have a family and love them all the time.